Membuat Tempahan Khidmat Penghantaran J&T Secara Atas Talian

Hmm.... Tak pasti bila. Tapi, rasanya dalam bulan 3 atau 4 tahun ni, pergi J&T.

Sebelum-sebelum ni pernah pergi, lancar dan pantas je urusan. Masuk dalam ruang kedai, tunggu sekejap, pegawai bertugas minta maklumat, dia taip masuk dalam komputer, kita bayar, dia bagi no. rujukan, siap. Selesai. Selalu tak sampai 10 minit pun termasuk masa menunggu, kalau tak silap.

Tapi, hari tu pergi, pegawai tu cakap sepatutnya kena daftar dulu secara atas talian.

Hikari tak tahu caranya jadi terpaksa tanya. Katanya, guna telefon, pergi cari kod QR di Facebook. Ok.... cuba la. Tak jumpa pun. Terpaksa minta dia tunjuk. Dia cuba sendiri, oh, memang tak boleh. Mungkin telefon Hikari bermasalah katanya. Jadi, tak apalah. Kali ni, pakai dulu telefon dia untuk daftarkan barang yang Hikari nak hantar tu. Selesai masalah.

Walaupun dah selesai untuk urusan masa tu, macam mana dengan urusan-urusan seterusnya?

Hikari masih tak reti cara nak daftar secara atas talian ni. Jadi, Hikari tanya pegawai tu lagi, "Ada tak panduan pasal ni di laman rasmi J&T ke apa?". Jawabnya, ada. Tak apalah kalau macam tu. Nanti Hikari semak laman rasmi J&T.

Beberapa hari sebelum ni, Hikari kena pergi J&T lagi.

Sebelum pergi, Hikari cuba daftar barang yang Hikari nak hantar secara atas talian. Panduan? Na da, zero, zilch, tak ada! Cari dekat laman sesawang rasmi, media sosial, Google, semua tak ada. Hadoi la deme ni... Kata wajib pakai tapi panduan tak ada. Tak logik sungguh! Tapi bab kata wajib pakai tu sahaja pun sebenarnya memang dah tak logik. Bukan semua orang ada telefon canggih atau kredit atau data. Pemberitahuan pun tak ada. Jadinya, wajib celah mana?

Apa pun, akhirnya, terpaksa la main cuba-cuba.

Dipendekkan cerita, tak boleh daftar melalui laman sesawang rasmi di https://www.jtexpress.my/ tapi kena daftar melalui aplikasi Android bernama J&T Malaysia baru boleh.

Kalau tak silap, masa tu, tak ada butang daftar (register) pun dalam laman sesawang tu. Ada butang masuk (login) dan pautan untuk yang lupa kata laluan sahaja. Tak tahu lah kalau sekarang dah ada.

Apa pun, Alhamdulillah, berjaya daftar.

Lepas daftar, boleh masuk ke sistem J&T melalui aplikasi J&T Malaysia tu atau laman sesawang rasmi J&T. Kalau nak hantar satu barang ke satu alamat sahaja, pilih Pesanan Tunggal. Kalau nak hantar banyak barang ke banyak alamat, pilih Pesanan Lambak. Kemudian masukkan sahaja maklumat yang diminta dan ikut arahan yang diberikan. Nanti dah selesai, kita akan diberikan no. rujukan untuk pesanan tersebut.

Hikari cetak salinan pesanan tapi sebenarnya asalkan ada nombor rujukan tu pun dah boleh. Pergi mana-mana J&T terdekat, bawa barang dan bagi nombor rujukan tu kepada pegawai bertugas. Nanti dia akan semak dalam sistem, dan cetak pelekat untuk dilekat pada barang dan untuk simpanan. Bayar. Selesai :)

Beli rumah dulu, atau kereta dulu? Kereta satu kehendak atau keperluan?

Selalu pakar-pakar kata, baik beli rumah dulu baru beli kereta. Tapi pakar-pakar pun ada pesan, 1 nasihat tu tak pernah sesuai untuk semua. Kena tengok juga keadaan masing-masing. Kalau jenis tak duduk tetap ni, beli rumah awal-awal lagi pening kepala. Pening kepala tak tau nak buat apa dengan rumah terbiar tu. Pening kepala macam mana nak urus sebab sibuk. Tapi berguna jugak la rumah tu masa tak ada duit. Kurang2 ada la benda nak dicagar, disewa, atau dijual.

Sekarang yang paling bersyukur sebab ada kereta. Kereta pula dulu beli yang paling sesuai dan paling murah (maksudnya yang murah tapi tak sesuai tak termasuk dalam senarai pilihan ya). Bayar bulan-bulan tak tinggal. Bila cukup duit dalam tabung ASB hasil simpanan, dividen (simpanan dan pinjaman ASB), dan bonus (simpanan dan pinjaman ASB), terus habiskan bayar. Rasanya tak sampai 3 tahun selesai bayar walaupun Hikari orang biasa-biasa je.

Bukan apa, takut hutang lama-lama. Kita ni bukan pasti langit sentiasa cerah. Lagipun dah tahu jenis penakut tu, jadi buat la apa yang sesuai dengan diri yang penakut tu. Bila ada peluang langsaikan hutang, langsaikan.

Alhamdulillah, sekarang dalam keadaan yang tak menentu ni, sekurang-kurangnya dah tak payah risau kena bayar hutang.

Dengan kereta tu la, sangat berjasa, meredah segala tempat, bawa mak pergi hospital, klinik, bawa kucing, dan haiwan peliharaan, jumpa pakar veterinar, apa bagai. Dengan kereta tu la pergi kerja, pergi bantu saudara-mara, pergi selesaikan pelbagai urusan bila-bila masa. Kalau terpaksa, boleh jadikan rumah sementara juga.

Memang ada MyCar, Grab, apa bagai, tapi ada sesetengah urusan, tak ada kereta memang susah. Terutama kalau yang melibatkan haiwan peliharaan. Seekor boleh la sorok letak dalam beg galas. Sekali lalu 2-3 ekor untuk pergi vaksin, rawatan, apa bagai? Mana nak letak?

Sebab tu sekarang rasa bersyukur ada kereta, bersyukur beli kereta, walaupun mula2 dulu rasa tak puas hati dengan mak, rasa terpaksa beli untuk gembirakan mak. Tak puas hati sebab rasa nak kumpul duit untuk beli rumah sendiri, rasa macam naik bas atau motor pun dah cukup. Sekarang baru rasa nikmatnya.

Ya, beli rumah, naik bas, naik motor, semua tu cukup untuk diri sendiri sahaja. Bila ada kereta, cukup untuk orang lain dan makhluk lain sama. Alhamdulillah.

Tak hairanlah kenapa sekarang kereta ni dilihat sebagai satu keperluan.

Ucapan tanda tak ikhlas

Baru-baru ni, di laman Facebook, ada saudara dan kenalan yang hantar komen. Mereka tulis "HB" atau "hb" sahaja. Ok, saya faham maksudnya "Happy Birthday" atau "Selamat Hari Lahir" kalau diterjemah semula ke Bahasa Melayu. Terima kasih kerana sekurang-kurangnya ingat tarikh lahir saya daripada tak ingat langsung tapi saya tak pasti samaada saya patut rasa gembira atau tidak apabila dapat komen macam ni :/

Soalan:
Nak tulis selamat hari lahir tu ambil masa lebih 1 jam ke sampai kena singkatkan jadi hb?

Bukan apa. Ucapan tanda ingatan sepatutnya membuatkan si penerima rasa gembira, dihargai atau disayangi. Tapi kalau sampai nak ucap perkataan yang dah cukup pendek pun kena pendekkan lagi sampai macam ni sekali.... er... nampak macam buat kerana terpaksa je? Saya tak suka paksa orang :x

Cinta itu buta ke... orang yang buta???

Serius saya tak faham...

Suami keparat. Itu gelaran layak diberikan terhadap tindakan kejam seorang suami yang tergamak membelasah isterinya hingga menyebabkan mangsa terlantar di Hospital Sungai Buloh selama lima hari.

Mangsa yang berusia 30-an ditumbuk dan dihentak kepalanya di dinding berulang kali hingga menyebabkan kedua-dua mata mengeluarkan air mata darah.

Sumber polis berkata, kejadian berlaku pada jam 10 malam baru-baru ini ketika mangsa bertengkar dengan suaminya berusia 34 tahun di kediaman mereka di Pandan Indah di sini.

Menurutnya, pertengkaran itu kemudian bertukar menjadi ganas apabila lelaki terbabit hilang pertimbangan sebelum menyerang isterinya.

“Suspek bertindak menendang, menarik rambut dan menghentak kepala isterinya ke dinding menyebabkan mangsa mengerang kesakitan.

“Tidak cukup dengan itu, dia terus membelasah mangsa tanpa henti hingga terkencing kesakitan sebelum pengsan,” katanya.

Sebelum itu, lelaki itu menumbuk muka dan mata isterinya berulang kali.

“Dia tidak mempedulikan mangsa yang pengsan sebelum beredar meninggalkan rumah berkenaan.

“Mangsa hanya tersedar kira-kira jam 7.30 pagi esoknya sebelum mengalami muntah darah selain darah turut meleleh keluar daripada matanya kesan kecederaan dipukul,” katanya.

Bimbang dengan keselamatan dirinya, wanita itu mendapatkan rawatan di klinik berhampiran kediaman sebelum dirujuk ke Hospital Sungai Buloh berikutan mengalami kecederaan teruk.

“Akibatnya mangsa terlantar di hospital selama lima hari sebelum dibenarkan keluar Jumaat lalu selepas keadaannya stabil,” katanya.

Mangsa yang bimbang dicederakan suaminya sekali lagi tampil membuat laporan di Balai Polis Pandan Indah, di sini, untuk tindakan selanjutnya.

Sementara itu, Ketua Polis Daerah Ampang Asisten Komisioner Khairuldin Saad ketika dihubungi mengesahkan menerima laporan berhubung kejadian itu dan siasatan lanjut dijalankan mengikut Seksyen 323 Kanun Keseksaan.

Sumber:
http://www.hmetro.com.my/articles/ANGKARASUAMIKEPARAT/Article/

... kenapa ada orang perempuan yang pilih si dayus macam ni untuk jadi suami? Adakah si dayus tu sebelum berkahwin dengan si perempuan sangat pandai berpura-pura sehingga si perempuan serta ibu bapa si perempuan langsung tak perasan kebangsatan si dayus? Kes macam ni dah selalu sangat kita dengar akhir-akhir ni sampai orang yang belum kahwin pun jadi takut nak kahwin bila dengar.

Lagi satu yang saya tak faham, berdasarkan apa yang saya pernah baca sebelum ni lah... Perempuan yang dibelasah teruk oleh si dayus yang digelar kekasih atau suami ni, sebelum ni memang dah pernah kena buli atau pukul oleh si dayus yang sama. Jadi kenapa mereka masih bersama? Kenapa si perempuan tak cabut lari?? Kenapa si perempuan tak buat aduan polis???

Kalau di Barat tu, pernah la saya baca yang si perempuan tak tinggalkan si lelaki sebab sayang. Dekat Malaysia ni tak tahu la pula kalau kebanyakannya macam tu tapi... kalau baca http://siraplimau.com/isteri-diludah-ditumbuk-ditendang-dan-disumpah-seranah/ ... uh, macam dua kali lima je? Lain-lain alasan yang saya pernah dengar ialah sebab sayangkan anak dan nak perkahwinan tu berkekalan.

Sangat sangat pelik, kan?

Kenapa sayang sangat si dayus kalau si dayus tak sayangkan dia? Ada perempuan yang jawab, tak... dia tahu yang si dayus sayangkan dia... Ok, tak dinafikan. Memang betul ada jenis orang yang tak pandai tunjuk perasaan sebenar atau dibesarkan untuk tunjukkan kasih sayang macam tu. Tapi... maaflah ini sekadar pendapat k.

Tak semua orang tahu cara untuk menunjukkan kasih sayang yang betul. Orang macam ni patut diberi tunjuk ajar. Tapi kalau si perempuan bagi je si suami atau kekasih jadikan diri sebagai beg latihan bertinju, tak minta bantuan daripada sesiapa, bila orang tu akan belajar cara yang betul? Memang la boleh juga kalau nak cuba sendiri ubah mereka perlahan-lahan tapi kalau dah mengandung, kalau dah ada anak... takkan nak tunggu lagi?

Kalau si perempuan tak tolong si suami atau kekasih berubah secepat mungkin, si perempuan dah buat kesalahan yang sangat besar kepada anak-anak mereka termasuk la anak yang ada dalam kandungan tu. Kita kena ingat, anak-anak suka tiru ibu bapa. Adakah kita mahu anak-anak lelaki kita membesar jadi kaki buli dan kaki pukul macam ayah mereka? Adakah kita mahu anak-anak perempuan kita membesar mencari lelaki macam ayah mereka untuk dijadikan suami? Adakah kita suka melihat anak-anak perempuan kita dibuli dan dibelasah oleh suami mereka?

Saya tak ada statistik tapi setakat kisah-kisah macam ni yang saya dah pernah baca, banyak kaki buli, dan mangsa kaki pukul, sebenarnya dibesarkan dalam keluarga macam tu. Sebab tu lah salah satu tanggungjawab lelaki dan perempuan yang mahu berkahwin kepada anak mereka yang belum lahir ialah mencari lelaki atau perempuan yang baik untuk dijadikan pasangan supaya mereka ada peluang yang lebih besar untuk jadi manusia yang berguna.

Macam mana pasangan manusia tunjukkan kasih sayang kalau nak dibandingkan pasangan manusia dan 'mutant' (manusia yang bukan manusia)? Salah satu cara yang paling popular, dengan ucapan sayanglah, bukan caci maki atau hina pasangan di khayalak ramai. Kedua dengan hubungan fizikal yang memuaskan kedua-dua belah pihak. Peluk peluk ke, cium cium, bukan tumbuk-tumbuk! Yang ketiga, yang paling utama sebenarnya, sentiasa berfikir untuk kebaikan/keselesaan orang yang kita sayang. Sebab tu kalau kita nampak mak kita penat angkat barang, automatik ramai di antara kita akan tolong angkat barang tu, mak tak payah suruh atau tanya pun. Kalau dah untuk kebaikan/keselesaan orang yang kita sayang, takkan kita nak tumbuk atau paksa dia buat kerja walaupun dah penat, kan? Kalau ada yang buat macam tu, itu tanda dia benci pasangan dia dan nak suruh mati cepat >:(

Yang keempat, kalau marah dengan orang yang disayangi, mesti rasa serba-salah nak tegur sebab.. sayang le. Tapi kalau terpaksa tegur atau hukum, mesti kena dengan tempat dan kesalahan yang dilakukan iaitu tidak melampaui batas. Saya pernah baca, ada si dayus yang tengking isteri yang tengah dukung anak di khayalak ramai suruh ambil troli yang si dayus tengah pegang dan bayar. Otak ada ka? Siapa yang patut bayar barang rumah? Suami ke isteri? Dahlah isteri tu dah cukup murah hati sanggup bayarkan untuk si suami, si dayus tu pula malukan isteri dia di khayalak ramai. Adakah ini tanda tegur sayang? Kalau ada perempuan yang setuju, saya nak sarankan kepada anda untuk buat macam tu pada pasangan anda di khayalak ramai. Tengok dia boleh terima tak teguran sayang anda tu, atau dia akan terus tempeleng je muka anda?

Kemudian ada yang bagi alasan, wajib taat kepada suami. Ya, itu memang betul tapi jangan lupa yang suami pun ada tanggungjawab mereka sendiri. Suami tak boleh pukul isteri sampai meninggalkan bekas, inikan pula sampai luka parah dan lebam-lebam. Suami tak boleh memalukan isteri di khayalak ramai. Suami tak boleh suruh isteri buka aurat di depan orang yang tak sepatutnya boleh lihat aurat tu. Suami tak boleh paksa isteri bayar bil air, beli barang rumah pakai duit sendiri. Suami tak boleh paksa isteri buat kerja rumah kalau isteri dah penat sebab itu sebenarnya tugas suami juga. Tapi kalau masih nak teruskan juga benarkan diri dizalimi, silakan KALAU rasa tak sayang ibu bapa dan anak.

Ibu bapa mana yang tak sedih tengok anak mereka didera? Kalau mereka dah meninggal dunia sekalipun, adakah mereka takkan sedih kalau tahu anak mereka didera dan hidup menderita? Dan seperti yang saya kata sebelum ni, anak-anak suka tiru ibu bapa mereka. Kalau mereka jadi hantu nanti, itu bukan salah si dayus semata-mata tetapi juga perempuan yang pilih untuk berpasangan dengan mereka. Itu tak masuk lagi kemungkinan trauma, kecederaan fizikal dan lain-lain.

Jadi kepada yang belum berkahwin, hati-hati memilih pasangan.

Yang dah terlanjur berpasangan dengan si dayus, kalau betul anda sayangkan dia, tinggal-tinggalkanlah. Si lelaki pun kalau tersilap pilih kekasih atau isteri dari kalangan makhluk ganas terlampau atau kaki dera, tinggalkanlah mereka. Laporkan kepada polis untuk masa depan yang lebih cerah untuk dia, anda, dan mereka yang sayangkan anda berdua. Tolong jangan pentingkan diri sendiri sampai anak-anak pun jadi mangsa :( http://kes-jenayah.blogspot.com/2010/11/isteri-di-dera-cerai-ekoran-lapor.html

Untuk perempuan, boleh telefon Talian Nur (15999) pada bila-bila masa untuk bantuan. Rasanya lelaki pun boleh minta bantuan di sini tapi saya tak pasti sebab kalau tengok nama tu memang macam untuk perempuan je tapi kalau tengok dokumen ni...
http://www.kpwkm.gov.my/documents/10156/24fc463d-589d-4c57-acbd-6b0e42233320 ...patutnya sesiapa pun boleh. Er, walaupun namanya ala-ala Arab sikit, tak bermakna bantuan ni untuk orang Islam je k. Sesiapa pun boleh minta tolong di sini.

Kalau nak dapatkan maklumat lebih lanjut berkenaan keganasan rumah tangga di Malaysia, boleh baca sini http://pmr.penerangan.gov.my/index.php/component/content/article/205-info-ringkas/395-soal-jawab-keganasan-rumah-tangga.html

Kalau nak buat aduan, boleh buat laporan segera kepada pihak polis yang berdekatan atau telefon Talian Nur tu. Kalau dah cedera, boleh pergi ke Pusat Krisis Bersepadu yang terdapat di semua hospital kerajaan (bahagian kecemasan) untuk mendapatkan rawatan dan tempat perlindungan jika perlu.

Pusat Krisis Bersepadu atau One Stop Crisis Centre (OSCC) ialah pusat perkhidmatan bersepadu antara pelbagai agensi yang menyelaraskan tugas bagi menyelesaikan kes keganasan rumah tangga, rogol, liwat dan penderaan terhadap kanak-kanak. Pusat ini adalah merupakan tempat yang memberi rawatan dan pertolongan yang diperlukan oleh pengadu. Pegawai dari agensi berkaitan akan tampil untuk memberi bantuan jika diperlukan. Dalam erti kata lain pusat ini memberikan pengurusan rawatan setempat.

Sumber maklumat:
https://www.malaysia.gov.my/citizen?articleId=270061&subCatId=269865&categoryId=103737
http://www.myhealth.gov.my/index.php/dewasa/keganasan/pusat-krisis-bersepadu

Nak Membela Kucing, Jangan Sampai Menyusahkan Orang Lain?

Saya selalu juga terbaca komen-komen yang isinya lebih kurang macam ni...

• Jiran saya ni pandai bela kucing tapi biar kucing berak kencing merata-rata.
• Bila kucing tu berak kencing merata-rata, menyusahkan orang lain yang kena bersihkan tahi dan kencing mereka.
• Patutnya kena pastikan kucing tu jangan berak kencing di rumah orang lain.
• Patutnya kucing tu kurung jaga dalam rumah.

Salah satu contoh:
https://www.facebook.com/aduka.duniatucing/posts/896968067011977

Ok lah, saya bersangka baik mungkin orang macam ni tak pernah jumpa kucing liar dan tak berminat nak tolong kucing liar. Jadi saya nak terangkan serba sedikit pasal situasi saya. Saya percaya ramai lagi orang yang bela banyak kucing berada dalam situasi yang sama atau lebih kurang sama macam saya.

• Saya bukan penggila kucing.
• Saya tak pernah beli kucing. Saya pun tak pernah jumpa kucing di mana-mana, angkut bawa balik rumah untuk dibela (kalau waktu kecil-kecil dulu, saya tak tahu lah saya pernah buat ke tidak sebab saya dah lupa). Jadi dari mana kucing yang ada di rumah saya ni datang? Jawapannya: MEREKA DATANG SENDIRI
• Rumah saya tak pernah berhenti dikunjungi kucing. Tiba-tiba je ada, tengok muka orang dengan muka kasihan minta makanan. Dah makhluk tu lapar, jadi nak buat apa? Takkan nak biar je kelaparan, betul tak? Nak tak nak, kena la kongsi makanan yang ada.
• Dah bagi makan, kucing tu tahu datang sini ada makanan, kucing tu datang la setiap kali dia lapar. Daripada 2-3 hari sekali, jadi tiap-tiap hari, sehingga 3 hari sekali. Kucing-kucing tu tak tinggal dalam rumah saya. Sekali-sekala sahaja saya benarkan mereka melawat masuk dalam rumah saya. Selalunya bila saya tak ada apa-apa benda nak dibuat lah atau rasa macam nak main dengan mereka.
• Tapi anak kucing, nak tak nak, saya kurung dalam rumah sementara dia nak besar. Kalau tak kurung, mesti hilang samaada kena langgar atau kena buli dengan kucing lain atau dimakan dek anjing. Nasib tak baik, mati kebuluran atau mati disebabkan penyakit. Sementara nak besar, saya lepaskan mereka sekali-sekala untuk bermain dan biasakan diri dengan dunia luar sambil dipantau oleh saya. Bila dah dewasa, baru saya lepas sepenuhnya hidup di luar.
• Mereka berak kencing di dalam dan luar rumah, setiap hari kena cuci, tu perkara biasa. Tapi saya tak marah sebab mereka memang haiwan liar. Sama je macam gajah, burung, cicak. Macam mana kau nak halang mereka daripada berak merata-rata? Kalau yang tinggal dalam rumah mungkin kau boleh ajar berak atas pasir atau dalam tandas. Yang tinggal di luar rumah? Dengan kata lain tak guna pun kau nak marah-marah dan bising-bising tak tentu hala memandangkan benda tu kau tak boleh nak kawal. Jadi diam dan cuci je. Anggap macam anak kau yang masih bayi ATAU harimau di kawasan tu yang berak merata-rata. Kurang stres.
• Kalau mereka sakit atau cedera, saya cuma tolong sekadar yang termampu. Kalau ada duit lebih, saya hantar mereka ke klinik untuk disuntik vaksin atau dirawat untuk menjaga kesihatan mereka (keutamaan peruntukan kewangan kepada anak kucing). Kalau tak ada duit lebih, terpaksa la cari petua di Internet nak rawat sendiri macam mana. Kalau tak boleh tolong rawat, nak buat macam mana. Tengok je la dan cuba tolong bab lain.
• Selain daripada tu, saya dalam perancangan untuk mandulkan semua kucing di kawasan saya dan tak kisah keluarkan duit sendiri (keutamaan peruntukan kewangan kepada anak kucing) sebab nak tolong kawal jumlah kucing yang ada di kawasan ini. Ye la, kalau dah hidup, takkan nak bunuh pula. Orang yang tak ada hati dan perasaan, boleh lah kalau nak buat macam tu. Bagi manusia normal, jauh lebih senang untuk memandulkan kucing yang hidup berbanding membunuh mereka.

Ok, sekarang soalan saya berkenaan kucing-kucing itu...

• Adakah kucing-kucing itu milik saya?
• Adakah wajar sekiranya jiran saya marah saya kerana kucing-kucing tu berak kencing merata-rata?
• Adakah wajar sekiranya jiran saya nak saya kurung semua kucing-kucing tu dalam rumah?
• Adakah wajar jika jiran saya nak pukul atau bunuh atau tangkap dan buang kucing-kucing tersebut kalau kehendaknya tidak dipenuhi?

Masing-masing fikirlah sendiri...

Laman Sosial Yang Mampu Menggantikan Facebook - Ummaland?

Kalau anda datang sini untuk cari panduan cara daftar Ummaland... terus klik sini.

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Ok, perhatian. Hari tu saya merujuk secara umum kepada laman-laman sosial yang orang Islam pernah buat (yang saya pernah tengok la). Saya tak pernah kata yang laman sosial orang Islam tak menarik, tak bagus, tak hebat, dan saya tak pernah kata saya tak sokong laman sosial yang orang Islam buat, cuma satu je... saya tak nampak yang laman-laman sosial ni mampu menggantikan Facebook atau laman sosial yang orang bukan Islam buat.

Pertama kali saya tengok je muka depan Ummaland.... tanggapan pertama saya ialah, alahai, rugi betul. Cantik, menarik, tapi untuk orang Islam je. Tak ada beza dengan forum atau Facebook Group. Terus tak jadi daftar.

Kalau banding dengan orang lain, mungkin saya boleh dikira sebagai tak berapa kuat dalam bab-bab agama ni (macam mana pun saya memang sentiasa sikit demi sedikit cuba membaiki kelemahan diri). Memandangkan saya tak berapa kuat agama, saya fikir lebih kepada logik.

Kalau saya nak cari maklumat pasal agama Islam, banyak je Facebook Page, YouTube Videos, aplikasi e-Solat dan Al-Quran Explorer yang mana tak payah daftar pun boleh dapat fungsi yang sama macam Ummaland ni. Kelebihannya cuma semuanya dikumpulkan di satu tempat. Tapi kalau tak daftar pun, boleh je kumpulkan semua ni di satu tempat. Bookmarks atau Favorites kan ada?

Personaliti saya pula jenis kalau tak ada keperluan untuk daftar sesuatu akaun, buat apa daftar? Menambah penat je kena hafal banyak Nama Pengguna (Username) dan Kata Laluan (Password). Kalau fungsi lebih kurang sama, pakai je la apa yang ada.

Mula-mula dulu saya daftar Facebook pun sebab kerja. Tapi sejak tu saya banyak guna Facebook untuk tujuan peribadi juga seperti mendapatkan maklumat terkini tentang ahli keluarga, saudara-mara, kawan-kawan, rakan sekerja, isu negara, isu politik, isu agama, macam-macam. Kawan-kawan saya, rakan sekerja, kenalan saya, syarikat yang saya suka, kumpulan yang saya suka, atau apa-apa je yang boleh disukai (Liked), tak semuanya orang Islam.

Dengan kata lain, saya boleh guna Facebook untuk berhubung dengan hampir semua orang yang saya kenal, tanpa mengira usia, kaum, agama, bahasa, dan negara. Sedar-sedar je salah satu tempat hampir wajib saya lawati setiap hari ialah Facebook. Tak lawat je Facebook, rasa macam, oh, banyaknya maklumat terlepas.

Jadi kalau tengok sekali lalu, Ummaland memang tak boleh ganti Facebook sebab terhad untuk orang Islam je jadi buat apa daftar? Saya memang sokong produk orang Islam, tapi kalau saya tak perlu gunakannya, saya takkan beli atau pakai juga. Kalau saya daftar juga, itu yang jadi sedar-sedar dah 4 tahun tak log masuk. Jangankan Kata Laluan, Nama Pengguna pun saya dah tak ingat. <- Pengalaman

Tapi tak adalah saya halang sesiapa untuk guna Ummaland. Saya tahu ramai je orang Islam yang akan daftar dan guna sebab ramai yang suka mencuba dan sukakan benda baru. Tak ada halangan, silakan.

Oleh sebab tanggapan awal saya ialah laman ini macam Facebook tapi untuk orang Islam je, saya sentiasa teringat akan perlakuan orang Islam yang saya selalu sangat nampak dalam Facebook. Kalau orang Islam berkumpul je lepas tu keluar topik pasal Yahudi atau orang Cina atau sesiapa je yang bukan Islam... habislah... nama je orang Islam tapi yang keluar dari papan kekunci tu, mak oi, macam-macam gelaran buruk, ugutan, hinaan, maki-hamun... semua keluar. Bahasa jangan cakap la. Memang hancur terus.

Ini ke ajaran Islam? Bukan, kan? Tapi kalau kita tegur, ada je yang akan serang balik dan tuduh bukan-bukan kata kita sokong Yahudi/Cina/sesiapa je la yang bukan Islam untuk tindas umat Islam atau kita ni bencikan orang Melayu atau orang Islam dan macam-macam lagi la tuduhan. Saya tak minat nak berkumpul dengan orang-orang macam ni. Inilah satu lagi punca utama kenapa saya tak berminat dengan Ummaland pada mulanya walaupun awal-awal lagi kalau tengok je muka depan tu dah rasa tertarik.

Walau bagaimanapun, saya rasa selain saya, ramai yang memang teringin nak tutup Facebook dan gantikan terus dengan landasan sosial yang disediakan oleh orang Islam. Dan saya rasa, bagi kebanyakan orang termasuk saya, keinginan ini semakin membuak-buak sejak Pengganas Zionis makin teruk menyeksa Palestin sejak sebelum raya hari tu sehingga kita takut atau tak suka nak guna produk hasil orang bukan Islam, orang Yahudi terutamanya. Kita takut mereka gunakan duit tu untuk menyokong Pengganas Zionis terus menganiayai penduduk Palestin terutamanya yang beragama Islam.

Saya sebenarnya dah lama boikot produk orang bukan Islam. Saya tak ingat sejak bila tapi kalau tak silap, sejak sebelum PRU13 lagi. Cumanya sebelum PRU13 tu saya cuma boikot hasil keluaran orang Yahudi. Selepas PRU13, hasil keluaran orang Cina pun saya boikot juga. Tapi, semakin lama saya boikot, semakin saya sedar bahawa saya tiada sebab kukuh untuk berbuat demikian. Maksud saya....

Kenapa saya boikot? Adakah sebab saya benci mereka? Sampai bila saya nak boikot? Adakah apabila Palestin mendapat haknya kembali saya akan berhenti boikot? Adakah apabila orang Melayu akhirnya diiktiraf sama tinggi dengan kaum-kaum lain di muka bumi ni, apabila orang-orang Cina berhenti menghina agama Islam, maka saya akan berhenti boikot?

Apabila saya bertanya soalan-soalan ni kepada diri saya, akhirnya saya sedar yang saya tak benci mereka melebihi saya benci orang Melayu atau orang Islam yang jahat. Apa yang lebih utama sebenarnya ialah membantu orang Islam terutamanya orang Melayu (sebab saya orang Melayu) mengembangkan perniagaan mereka supaya kita dah tak perlu lagi bergantung kepada orang bukan Islam terutamanya dalam bab makanan.

Orang Islam jarang nak tipu halal haram sebab mereka pun makan makanan dan minuman yang sama. Kalau ada orang Islam yang makan atau minum yang haram sekalipun, tak pernah lagi saya dengar mereka jual makanan atau minuman yang haram tapi tipu pelanggan kata halal. Yang buat macam tu selalunya orang bukan Islam je. Kadang-kadang bukan mereka nak menipu pun tapi mereka tak faham kepentingannya kepada orang Islam jadi mereka ambil mudah macam kes Ngeh Koo Ham pasal isu White Coffee tu.

Apabila orang Islam mampu memenuhi semua keperluan orang Islam dan orang ramai, tak adalah isu yang keluar macam...

1. Haha, kalau orang Cina tak ada, orang Melayu masih makan ubi kayu, mundur sampai bila-bila. <<- komen majoriti orang Cina yang malas nak ambil tahu pasal sejarah Melayu dan Malaysia

2. Haha, kau nak boikot produk Yahudi atau mereka yang menyokong Yahudi? Berhenti pakai Facebook/Intel/Samsung dulu. <<- komen sesetengah orang Islam dan majoriti orang bukan Islam

3. Apabila kita jawab, Facebook ni bukan kita bayar pun, dan boleh digunakan untuk menentang kezaliman mereka (senjata makan tuan), ada yang balas.... Haha, kau kata la apa pun. Sebenarnya orang Islam cuma menipu diri sendiri. Orang Islam mampu bercakap je. Tin kosong. Kalau la Facebook halang orang Islam, orang Malaysia terutamanya daripada guna Facebook, habislah... Permainan tamat. Semua terkontang-kanting. <<- Memang tak dapat dinafikan pun...

Alhamdulillah sekarang ni dah banyak produk orang Islam tersedia di pasaran. Cuma dalam bab Facebook ni... ramai yang masih tercari-cari pengganti yang sesuai yang dihasilkan atau dimiliki oleh orang Islam termasuk saya. Jadi apabila saya komen pasal laman sosial yang orang Islam buat, bukanlah saya bermaksud untuk menghina, nak merendah-rendahkan kebolehan orang Islam, atau tak nak menyokong produk orang Islam, tapi lebih kepada saya berharap supaya orang Islam dapat menghasilkan laman sosial yang setanding atau lebih baik berbanding Facebook.

Kalau saya salah faham, tolong terangkan kepada saya elok-elok. Tak perlu la nak beri gelaran buruk-buruk atau ejek saya atau suruh saya buat sendiri. Kalau saya mampu, memang saya buat dah.

Inilah sikap ramai orang Melayu yang saya tak suka. Mudah sangat bersangka buruk, melenting dan menjatuhkan hukuman. Kalau guna bahasa elok-elok, tak apa juga, orang senang sikit nak lupakan perkara tu dan maafkan begitu je. Tapi kalau dah sampai guna bahasa yang kurang ajar, nak maafkan boleh tapi nak lupakan? Setiap kali teringat, setiap kali rasa geram, macam mana nak lupa dengan cepat? Akhirnya terpaksa menjauh diri dan putuskan hubungan macam tu je kalau tak nak cari penyakit darah tinggi.

Saya tak kata orang kaum lain tak buat macam tu cumanya saya lebih dekat dengan orang Melayu jadi tak hairan la kalau saya akan lebih terasa kalau orang Melayu yang buat macam ni.

Tapi Alhamdulillah, rupanya ada hikmah di sebalik peristiwa ini. Saya mungkin hilang kawan tapi saya beroleh pengalaman menggunakan Ummaland ni. Setakat ni saya tengok Ummaland memang menarik dan lebih tersusun berbanding Facebook. Terus-terang cakap, kalau Ummaland ni tak dinamakan Ummaland dan dibuka kepada semua, tak mustahil Facebook akan kalah serta-merta.

Ramai dah orang Islam dan bukan Islam mengadu pasal Facebook sebenarnya. Ummaland nampaknya dah menyelesaikan banyak masalah yang berlaku dalam Facebook. Contohnya, apa-apa maklumat yang dikongsikan dalam Facebook seperti fail dan video, susah nak cari balik tapi dalam Ummaland, jauh lebih senang sebab dah ada kategori khas untuk benda-benda macam ni sahaja.

Untuk guna Ummaland, kena daftar dulu. Ada tiga (3) cara untuk daftar. Yang pertama, daftar terus akaun Ummaland ('Sign Up' macam biasa la). Yang kedua, daftar dengan cara 'Connect to Facebook'. Dan yang akhir sekali, daftar menggunakan fungsi 'Login with' Facebook, Twitter Google dan lain-lain.

Cara yang kedua ni akan meminta pengguna memasukkan Nama Pengguna dan Kata Laluan Facebook. Selepas berjaya log masuk, sistem akan meminta kebenaran daripada pengguna untuk menyalin data daripada Facebook seperti Nama, Tarikh Lahir, Gambar dan lain-lain ke dalam Ummaland. Kalau pengguna klik setuju, pengguna akan dibawa ke skrin seterusnya untuk pilih Kata Laluan. Pada halaman yang sama, maklumat seperti Nama Pengguna akan tertera. Pengguna boleh ubah maklumat-maklumat yang dipaparkan kalau nak.

Cara yang ketiga, saya pun tak pernah cuba jadi Wallahualam. Sesiapa yang pernah daftar dengan cara ni, tolong komen sikit, cerita pengalaman :)

Apabila dah berjaya mendaftar, ada banyak rupanya fungsi-fungsi yang disediakan. Selain fungsi asas kemaskini status (What's on your mind?), ada banyak lagi fungsi yang menarik seperti mengumpul dana (Fundraising), bayar Zakat, menjual produk di Bazar (nampak macam percuma), Pages (nampak macam sama fungsi dengan Facebook Pages), Blog, belajar ilmu-ilmu yang bermanfaat di Akademi (ada kursus percuma, ada yang berbayar), kongsi fail di Library dan kongsi Video. Cubalah. Mesti rasa macam nak kongsi atau nak guna :)

Ada satu menu, namanya Manage Social Account. Tak pasti apa fungsinya sebab apabila tekan butang yang ada di dalam tu, tak ada apa-apa yang terjadi. Saya tak pasti kalau yang bermasalah tu komputer saya :/

Kadang-kadang sistem agak perlahan. Saya cuba di tempat kerja dan di rumah, dua-dua pun perlahan. Tak tahu la kalau saya je yang mengalami masalah ni.

Kalau dah pakai tapi tak suka dan nak batalkan akaun, boleh pergi ke bahagian Account Settings dan klik Cancel Account.

Ada yang tanya siapa yang hasilkan Ummaland ni. Jawapannya ialah 3 orang Islam bernama Maruf Yusupov daripada Uzbekistan, Jamoliddin Daliev daripada Uzbekistan dan Mehmudjan Mehmethaji daripada Uyghur Autonomous Region of China.

Boleh baca kisah mereka dengan lebih lanjut di sini:
http://www.youngmuslimdigest.com/profile/05/2013/ummaland-com-a-pioneering-vision-in-muslim-social-networks/

Setakat tengok sekali lalu macam ni, nampak memang ada potensi la kalau orang Islam ramai-ramai nak daftar dan guna betul-betul. Tapi kalau ramai orang Islam yang macam saya, guna Facebook untuk pelbagai tujuan termasuk berhubung dengan ahli keluarga, kawan-kawan, kenalan, atau sesiapa sahaja yang bukan Islam dan urusan kerja, jawabnya akaun Facebook terpaksa dibiarkan dan terus digunakan serta ada kemungkinan akaun Ummaland yang telah dibuat akan terabai.

Dengan kata lain, kita akan terus dipandang hina kerana tiada pencapaian di peringkat universal di mana semua orang boleh mendapat manfaat yang sama. Tapi kalau kita lihat dari sudut positif, mungkin Ummaland akan menjadi 'trademark' kepada laman sosial di dunia sebab memang tak dapat dinafikan bahawa Ummaland ni ada banyak kebaikannya berbanding kebanyakan laman sosial sedia ada.

Apa pun selangkah demi selangkah... Sekurang-kurangnya dengan adanya laman sosial Ummaland ini, umat Islam dah melangkah maju satu lagi tapak ke hadapan dan dah ada tempat yang bagus untuk buat salinan pendua (backup) untuk Facebook Page yang berkemungkinan besar untuk dipadam oleh Facebook kerana penyokong pengganas Zionis yang tak puas hati :)

P/S: Maaf kalau karangan saya ni asyik diedit. Nak sampaikan apa yang difikirkan dalam otak ni kadang-kadang susah sikit. Lain yang difikirkan, lain yang disampaikan sehingga perlu diperbetulkan banyak kali. Saya mohon maaf banyak-banyak kalau masih ada sebarang salah dan silap dalam karangan saya ni.

Mulut Jahat Pemutus Silaturahhim

Ok, dalam tulisan saya sebelum ni, ada saya tulis pasal laman sosial yang orang Islam buat untuk menggantikan laman sosial Facebook. Tadi kebetulan ada kenalan kongsi pautan Ummaland di Facebook.

Saya tak ada niat buruk apa-apa, tak guna bahasa yang buruk, tak ada menghina sesiapa, tak ada merendah-rendahkan usaha sesiapa, dan tak mengutuk pun Ummaland. Saya cuma berkongsi pendapat tentang kelemahan laman sosial yang orang Islam buat.

Tak pasal-pasal je kena serang konon tak sokong orang Islam la, suka sangat orang bukan Islam la, pahlawan papan kekunci la dan diberi gelaran buruk seperti bongok dan sebagainya. Sakit hati betul dengar. Agak-agak la.

Mungkin juga saya tersalah cara dan tersalah sangka bahawa kenalan tu jenis boleh terima perbezaan pendapat tapi... Kita ni orang Islam. Kalau tak setuju dengan pendapat orang lain sekali pun, tak boleh ke cakap elok-elok? Perlu ke beri gelaran buruk-buruk dan tuduh yang bukan-bukan hanya disebabkan berlainan pendapat? Berlainan pendapat tak bermakna musuh.

Tapi, apabila kita menggelarkan seseorang tu dengan gelaran yang buruk, kita sememangnya membuka jalan untuk memutuskan sebarang hubungan dengan orang tu dan menjadikannya musuh. Kalau tak percaya, cuba ingat balik. Apabila bergaduh dengan sesiapa, apakah yang paling kita susah lupakan sampai bila-bila?

Pukulannya? Tendangannya? Pendapatnya? Pendapat kita? Atau... cercaan, hinaan, makian dan gelaran buruk yang dia berikan kepada kita?

Siapakah yang lebih senang kita maafkan? Orang yang tegur kita elok-elok? Atau orang yang sambil tegur sambil kutuk kita dengan gelaran yang menyakitkan hati?

Fikir-fikirkan...

#PeringatanUntukDiriSendiriJuga

Kenapa laman sosial yang dihasilkan orang Islam GAGAL menggantikan Facebook?

Kadang-kadang kalau tengok perkhidmatan yang disediakan orang Islam untuk ganti Facebook, rasa macam serba-salah. Bagus memang bagus sebab ada usaha untuk memenuhi fardhu kifayah tapi... orang yang buat tu macam tak faham kenapa orang susah tinggalkan Facebook.

Pengguna Facebook ni terdiri datang daripada pelbagai jenis latar belakang. Ada orang Melayu, Cina, India, Arab, Yahudi dan lain-lain kaum atau etnik. Yang lebih menarik, ada orang Islam, orang Kristian, orang Yahudi, orang Hindu, dan lain-lain agama. Umur pun macam-macam.

Lepas tu, cuba tengok pula tujuan pengguna Facebook guna Facebook. Ada yang guna sebab kawan, ada yang guna untuk main, ada yang guna untuk dapatkan maklumat, ada yang guna untuk sebarkan perniagaan atau pendapat atau pengaruh... macam-macam lah.

Kenapa orang-orang ini tanpa mengira usia, bangsa, agama, dan negara senang menggunakan Facebook tapi akan fikir banyak kali kalau nak guna alternatif-alternatif Facebook yang orang Islam sediakan?

Senang je. Cuba tengok alternatif-alternatif yang orang Islam sediakan setakat ni... ok... cuba tengok nama. Macam mana bunyinya? Ya.... Islamik gila... dengar-dengar je, orang bukan Islam jangan harap la nak daftar... dengan kata lain, kalau ada orang nak daftar, mesti majoriti  sekurang-kurangnya 99.99% ialah orang Islam.

Lepas tu cuba tengok halaman utama... aduh... awal-awal lagi... Assalamualaikum... 0.01% orang bukan Islam tadi tu rasanya mesti dah cabut lari kecuali kalau memang dari awal lagi dia memang berminat dengan Islam. Kemudian masuk pula tengok kandungan di dalamnya.... ~_~ Ahahaha.... ye, bagus.... memang bagus sangat dengan bacaan Al-Quran, hadis dan macam-macam.. tapi itulah... untuk orang Islam sahaja.

Kegunaannya pula memang hanya untuk berkomunikasi sesama orang Islam, mendapatkan maklumat daripada orang Islam, berniaga dengan orang Islam, dan menyebarkan pendapat atau pengaruh dikalangan orang Islam... maka jadilah kita semua secara rasminya kera sumbang @_@

Dan secara rasminya gagallah juga laman-laman sosial ni untuk menggantikan Facebook sebab....

1. Berapa ramai di sini yang tak ada kawan berlainan agama?

2. Berapa ramai di sini yang tak berminat untuk mendapatkan maklumat tentang syarikat, produk, idola, atau apa-apa je yang bukan dikeluarkan atau dihasilkan atau beragama Islam?

3. Berapa ramai di sini yang berniaga dengan orang Islam sahaja?

4. Berapa ramai yang tak pernah berkomunikasi dengan orang berlainan agama untuk apa-apa alasan?

... dengan kata lain.. nak tak nak, orang yang daftar untuk laman sosial yang orang Islam sediakan ni terpaksa untuk TIDAK MENUTUP akaun Facebook mereka dan terus menggunakannya selagi mereka perlu menggunakannya.

Kalau laman sosial hasil buatan orang bukan Islam sentiasa digunapakai oleh semua orang tapi laman sosial orang Islam cuma digunapakai oleh orang Islam.... sampai bila baru hasil buatan orang Islam akan berupaya jadi alternatif kepada hasil buatan orang bukan Islam? Jawapannya, tak mungkin, sampai bila-bila pun hasil buatan orang Islam akan menjadi pilihan terakhir dan hanya digunakan pada musim boikot :(

P/S: Kalau semak pembina laman-laman tu memang tak cakap pun yang mereka buat laman tu untuk ganti Facebook jadi tak salah apa yang mereka buat. Cuma apabila ada yang kata laman-laman tersebut mampu ganti Facebook rasa macam.... erk, kau biar betul, bro/sis....

I am quiet and prefer not to fight but that doesn't mean I could be bullied

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Why are Scorpios always quiet and afraid of Arians?

I notice they are always by themselves and they avoid fights, I always mess with this scorpio and try to ruffle his feathers and mock him trying to see if he'll get physical, I laugh at him and mock him but he just walks away without saying anything.

Source:
https://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20101215042950AA0JDtE

Just because someone is being mean to me, doesn't mean I should react in the same way. I mean, what would I get from that? I love peace and quiet. Verbal fights are exhausting and not fun at all. Most people would get tired if there's no response anyway so that's a plus for not fighting.

I don't get into physical fights though so I don't know what will I do if that ever happen. But, I doubt I will let the bully to bully me for long. If I can defend myself without calling the cops then, I would. If not, I still know my rights.

Some advice about communicating with a quiet person

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So, i have this Scorpio guy friend. He's cool but I notice how we have issues in communicating with each other. I talk to him often, just about random and sometimes serious things. But, most of the time, he's so damn quiet! I dont know why this has happened with most Scorpios I've known! I try my best to have an interesting conversation, but he doesn't seem to put any effort into it! I've talked to him about things that have happened to me and other stuff but he doesn't say much! But when he talks, I listen to him and I actually respond to him, I have even given him advice and I show him that I care as a friend.

I'm not joking, I've even told him that he is soooooo boring!! I tell him he almost puts me to sleep sometimes (not joking here), but he seems to just shrug it off. I get a little frustrated honestly. Sometimes I even avoid him just so I won't have to put up with him! He's even told me he likes to talk with me, even though he is so quiet!.... I don't know what to think when he says that! 

Advice anyone?

Update: I don't understand him when he says he likes talking to me but when we're actually talking, he is so quiet and it bores me! What can I do to make him talk more? I don't want to be mean to him, he really is a nice guy and he respects me, which is sweet!

Update 2: Scorpios, maybe some input from you guys could help!

Update 3: Ummm, I listen to him all the time! And he's the one who approaches me when he sees me! I'm not saying its all about me, ok?? I don't like to be the center of attention. It just seems like he doesn't care about me when I tell him things, but I do have to listen to him when he talks to me about his issues and about himself!

Update 4: Lol, if he really was bored with me and tired of me like you say Dr. Bob, then why does he approach me when he can easily avoid me? I'm not going to go after him, I'm not going to bother him, he is the one who approaches me. and I thought when two people are friends, they are supposed to care about each other. Well, I care about him. And no, I'm no Leo or Libra! Just shows how good judgement you have.

Source:
https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080112124136AAOSRpo

That sounds like me and if he truly acts like me then, I don't think he's lying when he says he like talking to you. Although he doesn't contribute much into the conversation, he can probably enjoy it just by listening to your thoughts and opinions. For a quiet person, even saying just a few words like 'uhuh', 'yeah', 'you're right' and so on here and there, already feels like we have contribute to the whole conversation. It's not him being selfish or uncaring, it's just his personality.

So, yeah... You might think it's boring but I am quite sure that it's not boring for him at all to spend time with you. I have no idea how you can make him talk more since I'm a quiet person myself.

By the way, if he really don't care about you, he would just go away without saying anything or if he's the polite type then he would try his best to make excuses to make you go away or not starting any kind of conversation right away. Since he didn't do that, I'm pretty sure that that is not the case.

If you truly want to know if he pays attention to you or not, how about testing him by asking him or have conversation with him based on the information you have share with him in previous conversations?

P/S: I'm only talkative when I have strong opinions about something or have a lot of knowledge about it. Most of the time though, being neutral or lacking information about the subject makes me feel like not saying anything at all.

Is it usual for Scorpio friends to rarely ever initiate hanging out?

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Just wondering, because I have some Scorpio friends that I have been friends with for years and that is the case with them. They don't really "keep in touch" either. Like they won't spontaneously message me to ask how I'm doing or anything like that. But they will usually hang out if I ask. Or could it be more likely that they secretly don't like me lol? I've never really been given another reason to think that way. And I know my Scorpio cousin never keeps in touch or shows up to family get together s, and when she does she still doesn't make much contact with anyone. But that could be just her. So could this distance be normal?

Source:
https://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20140101150519AAKmZmJ

Hm, I'm a Scorpio and that sounds like me. Not that I don't care or hate my friends or my family members or anything like that, it's just that unlike most people, I don't have to be around my friends or family members that often in order to feel connected to them. That's why when we finally meet again after years not meeting my friends during polytechnic for example, it feels like we've never stop being friends. Well, at least that's how I feel.

That's also why if my friends or family members call me, want to hang out or need help with something, they shouldn't hesitate to do so. I'd try my best to say yes, most of the time.

P/S: I'm a Muslim and I know that I shouldn't believe in superstition but in this case, I feel like it's not much of superstition but rather a study on how environment affects human personality. I mean, I've read about how moon movement can affect the activity on earth and human psychology. So why not planets too? But as always, these are just some of the things that can affect us, not something absolute like some people think it is.

Selamat Ulang Tahun Kelahiran Ke-62 Mak!

Hari Jumaat lepas, saya dan mak pergi beli telefon pintar baru untuk mak sempena hari ulang tahun kelahiran mak yang ke-62 minggu ni (ya, bukan salah taip, memang kami pergi awal). Muahhh, sayang mak ^____^ Semoga mak semakin sihat, terus gembira, berjaya dan diredhai Allah di dunia dan akhirat!

Selalunya saya pun tak tahu nak beri hadiah apa jadi saya belanja makan je tapi tahun ni nasib baik saya tahu mak dah lama nak buku bertajuk The Lunchtime Trader. Mak cakap buku ni pasal pelaburan Forex. Saya tak minat nak baca. Saya cuma tahu yang mak tak beli-beli buku ni sebab dia malas nak tempah secara atas talian. Nasib baik buku yang saya tempah untuk mak ni sampai sebelum mak pergi India (dua (2) hari sebelum hari lahir dia sebab tu kena sambut awal tu).

Sementara tunggu penjual tu muat turun peta dan set konfigurasi telefon pintar, kami pergi beli kek di Secret Recipe dan makan di KFC. Kalau ikutkan saya, dua-dua tempat ni saya memang tak minat nak pergi. Saya sekarang ni memang kedekut sangat-sangat nak belanja kepada orang belum masuk Islam kecuali kalau terpaksa. KFC memang la milik Johor Corporation tapi sebab perniagaan ni jenis 'franchise', bukan ke pemilik asal (yang belum masuk Islam) ada bahagian dalam pecahan keuntungan yang diperolehi?

Tapi apakan daya... dah mak memang suka kek di Secret Recipe. Hari ni ulangtahun kelahiran dia, jadi tahan je la perasaan kedekut tu untuk satu hari. Lepas tu nak makan di kawasan kedai-kedai makanan bukan 'franchise' di tingkat atas, kaki mak dah sakit. Jadi kena la cari kedai makan di bawah juga. Memang tersilap betul tak cetak dan bawa risalah yang BBCD keluarkan tu. Selalunya saya tak perlu pun risalah tu sebab kebanyakan barang terutamanya makanan memang saya beli dari Kedai Koperasi 1Malaysia, kedai milik orang Melayu/Islam, Petronas, pasar malam atau gerai-gerai orang Melayu/Islam di tepi jalan. Tak apa, ini sebagai pengajaran. Lepas ni memang kena cetak juga.

Tak ingat beli pakej apa di KFC tapi ada ayam goreng, sayur salad tu dipotong dadu tu ('Coleslaw'), kentang kisar ('Whipped Potato', air bikarbonat, burger, kentang dengan keju ('Cheezy Wedges'), dan bebola ayam berkeju. Memang sedap dan agak mengenyangkan. Lepas tu makan kek yang dibeli tadi pula :P

Kami beli dua potong kek (memang kesihatan mak tak membenarkan mak makan banyak kek pun). Tak dapat dinafikan, kek keju Secret Recipe memang sedap. Sepotong lagi kek, Turkish Chocolote Indulgence, namanya kalau tak silap. Er, manis sangat. Entah la. Walaupun memang saya suka manis tahap macam tu, suka coklat, dan suka kekacang, kek tu tak kena dengan citarasa saya dan mak.

Apa pun, Alhamdulillah, kenyang.

Dan Alhamdulillah juga, walaupun kami datang semula lebih awal daripada masa yang ditetapkan, penjual tu dah siap muat turun peta dan set konfigurasi pada telefon pintar tu seperti yang mak inginkan. Model Nokia tapi jenama apa tah, tak ingat. Telefon ni pakai sistem operasi Windows 8. Cantik memang cantik tapi aplikasi yang boleh dimuat turun dari Store tak banyak macam di Google Play Store. Tak kisahlah janji mak puas hati :)

Being Rude and Inconsiderate is OK?

Being Rude and Inconsiderate is Ok in China

http://thisischina-shamous755.blogspot.com/2012/05/being-rude-and-inconsiderate-is-ok-in.html

Hikari's response

Although I do agree with you that in certain situations you don't have to be apologetic, being thankful in all situation is a must.

I would always be thankful for my 1st, 2nd, 10th refill of water at anyone's place/restaurants because they help me to refill my drinks. Who cares whether they do it because of their own initiative or because it's their job? All I know is they DID help me to refill my drink.

When your situation is bad, your bad attitude, lack of gratitude and lack of kindness make it feels worse.

You might think it's okay (for now) because this is happening in China but the problem is, most of them are still not happy anyway once they have succeed and continue these.. so called culture or normality. They shove people out of the way even when they don't have to. They steal other people food even when they have lots of money to buy their own food.

And what makes it worse is that the Chinese immigrants tend to bring this culture to other countries which almost always ends up causing disputes with the locals.

You want prove? http://www.thestar.com.my/News/Community/2013/08/10/Shameful-Raya-tapauing-Community-body-slams-certain-open-house-guests-for-unashamedly-taking-away-f.aspx

So I can't agree with your opinion about this matter. Just because your situation forces you to do so doesn't mean it's right or it's alright.

Oh, furthermore...

“This is a shameful act and not acceptable in our culture,” Ting said, adding that he believed most of these people were educated and from quite well-off families.

Even though he said that, this article proves otherwise. Read the comments too. They're interesting.

http://www.squidoo.com/new-chinese-immigrants-why-are-they-so-rude-

As a Malay (Malaysian refers to citizens of Malaysia, Malay is a race. A person of the Chinese race can be a Malaysian too), I would have to agree with above article. Not all Chinese are like that of course.

Best of Luck to My New Friends

T_T

I am reluctant to let my new friends go.... They've finished their 4-months intern training here so... yeah.. Today's the last day. No more (welcomed) distraction from my tasks :( No more crazy but pleasant people to interact with.

I know a lot of people from here are a little bit crazy here and there like my two good friends but for some reasons we didn't 'match' quite as well.

The good news is they're still gonna visit us from time to time to finish their thesis which I hope they'll do that often.

I learnt a lot from them such as common courtesy, how they psych and analyse people and so on. I'm very thankful for the experience we've had together. Without them, I'm not sure if I would be able to gather other friends since I'm not quite a polite, nice and pleasant person to be with.

I'm gonna miss them but I wish them well.

Music Varieties and People

So, I'm alone at home today. Mom, aunts and my younger sister are on the way back to Penang. I'm left with my neighbors.

As usual, the first thing to do when I woke up is switching on the computer. And then... yeah, maybe reading some mangas, dirty fanfictions, or maybe replying to the emails. All while listening to the music.

Which leads to my fantasy of being a cool, sleepy, cat-like movement fighter alias quiet and forgettable princess.

Which leads to repetitive music (Hey, I gotta get the feeling right for each scene!).

Which leads to annoying people around me.

Which leads to some people who would retaliate by cranking up their own music choices totally loud. I can't even hear myself thinking :P Dang!

Well, I couldn't really get angry at them. I used to play my music really loud too though it has nothing to do with revenge. So I just stopped my music and listen to theirs instead.

It is interesting to listen to other people music preference. I would never have listen or know those music if I'm left on my own. Some of them are really good!

Mrs. Idd and family who are playing the songs right now, seems to like Malay songs which consist of romance and dangdut.

After my mom outburst a few weeks ago, all of my neighbors dare not to play different songs at very loud noise level at the same time. To me, it seems like they used to do that when they're arguing without arguing. No one want to back down from playing their playlists but it was very inconsiderate of them to other people in the neighborhood. Because they played the song very loud all at the same time, old people like my mom or sick people cannot rest. That's why my mom got angry and yelled at them. I was really afraid at the time because my mom has high blood pressure. What if she fainted?

Anyway, from then on, only one music can be played at any moment at reasonable noise level as to not to disturb the other neighbors. It is an unspoken rules.

But as my mom is not here right now, Mrs. Idd and family are playing it really loud again behind her back. Lol, I guess my mom really scares them. So anyway, I cannot listen to Katy Perry's song, E.T, which feature Kanye West at the moment. Too bad as it makes a really good background song for my fighting scene. I miss my old headphone.

With the headphone on, I won't be able to listen to other noise and I can listen to my music as loud as I want. Alas it got broken when I accidently yank the wire while dancing :P I am looking for a replacement since then but never try to go shopping as it didn't seem to be that important until today. Oh, well. I'll just get along for now.

Ok, back to music preference, Mrs Ill's husband seems to like old folk songs. While Mr. Ayu's (lol, a real life transgender live near me and I never knew until mom told me!) big brother seems to prefer Sarawak or Sabah native songs. I'm not sure as I don't speak their language.

All in all, listening to other people music choices is a very interesting experience even though it stopped me from fantasizing from time to time :)

Religious Speech Tips from a Listener

Whenever I listen to any preach whether by religious people or my parents, I am often left irritated. I mean, really, it's quite a torture.

Imagine having to listen to this:
Do you know why Tsunami happens? *Insert a phrase from al-Quran* God has told us that it's because our own sins. What is our sins? Yes, you guest it... adultery, drinking, does not cover your aurat and so on. That is why you should do *put whatever in here*. The end.

*face palm*

Do they think they're talking to a 5 years old kid?! I may not be a good speaker but I do know that most people including me are more likely to listen to advice or warning that makes sense!

First of all, I don't understand what is the connection between our sins and sudden earthquake, Tsunami and other natural disaster. I mean, how does adultery caused sudden earthquake? How does not praying 5 times a day like you're supposed to caused Tsunami? There is no logical explanation.

It might be okay if you're giving these reasoning to another Muslims or kids. At least they'll be able to accept the advice at face value. However, giving this kind of advice to a crowd with mixed religions or rebellious teens, I doubt they'll listen at all. I know I don't.

At least.... do this so it doesn't sound like you're talking to kids.

For starter, instead of connecting natural disaster directly to our sin and God's wrath, why not try to explain first how is it possible that the disaster is God's display of Its Almighty power?

Example:

Remember what happens to Japan recently? The earthquake and Tsunami disasters which then bring us yet to another disaster which is the ticking bomb of the nuclear plants. You see, the decision to build a nuclear plant is a big and dangerous decision by itself. There are lot of natural disasters like earthquake and such in Japan. Therefore a lot of planning and safety measures had surely been done before the nuclear plants were built. And yet, all of those planning, safety measures and advanced technology still cannot control or win over natural disaster directed by God.

Try to do this too to make it more interesting.
If you're trying to guilt me into doing something, either digs deeper into the possible connection between the acts that leads to natural disaster to what actually causes the disaster. I can't be bothered to research much about Tsunami at the moment but Zakat and landslides are some of the common problems in Malaysia as well so I'll use these as example instead.

Example:
What causes landslide in Malaysia? Most often, it's because of deforestation due to uncontrolled development of the hillside area. But how is it our sin that the landslide actually happens? After all, it's quite obvious that we are not the one who deforest the area.

If you think about it, it's quite simple. The only people who can do it (the physical works) must be selfish, greedy and do not care about the importance of taking care of our nature. All they can think of is collecting more and more money. So, how did these people become like that?

Maybe, they are desperate for money. Very poor people don't care what they do. They don't care if it's illegal, or dangerous. As long they have something to eat, something to where, and somewhere to sleep, they'll do it because they have to do it or die.

If this is the reason, it is obvious that it is our sin for not paying Zakat because if those poor people are qualified to accept Zakat, we could have prevent this from happening in the first place!


See the differences? 
If you don't, it's okay. I'm not a speaker or anything like that so my explanation might be a little bit.. hard to understand. But the main point is please explains HOW you get the conclusion. In Mathematics exam, you don't get high mark for...

2x + 8 = 6
x = -1

Yeah, the answer is right but you have to show HOW you calculate it as well in order to get a full mark.

2x + 8 = 6
2x = 6-8
2x = -2
x = -2/2
x= -1

Identity Crisis Going Out of Control

First, you want to remain anonymous. Then you want to be popular but you still want your privacy. And then you are worried about your employers snooping around the Internet. And then you're worried about what your family and friends would say if they ever see your entries about them in your blog or Twitter or Facebook. And by now, you have multiple identities you've maintain online and you're afraid your head is going to explode!

Seriously, am I the only one who feels like this?

On my Facebook account, I have set up lots and lots of filter. Filter for boss, filter for friends, filter for family members, filter for fellow gamers, filter for classmates, filter for coworkers, and filter for unknown friend requesters. Every time I want to post something, I have to check first or risk second guessing myself over and over again until I get sick.

The same goes with emails. There is emails for work, school, personal, spam, newsletter and if you're lucky, your employer will give you another extra emails for free. And it goes on and on with your other accounts.

So that's one thing to worry about, mixing your private life and work life. Then you have to worry about snooping!

For example, I have a Live Journal account by the name Hikari (not my real username so don't even think about it). See, I have a friend who is curious enough to search my username on Google and checked everyone with that username (real story). So maybe user details in Live Journal is not complete but who's to say that the other websites won't have it?

Thank goodness I don't use the same username on every account!

I have created several complete profiles to avoid my employers from spying on me. By complete profile, I mean something like this:

Username: Elliot1977
Real Name: Ellianor Maximus
Birthday: 12 January 1977
Gender: Transexual (hahaha)
Race: White
Country: United States

Heh, the name sounds stupid. I made that up just now but I do have those fake profiles for my personal use. Very effective against those peeping toms.

However, it's hard to maintain especially when you're like me who just can't make up my mind. For example, the other day I thought, "Eh, what the harm. Let's connect my blog on Blogger to my Yahoo! Pulse. My family and friends will be able to see it.". And the next day, my first thought was "What the heck was I thinking? I write about my inner thoughts on that blog! What if I hurt their feelings?!".

So, being able to create multiple profiles for different purposes is great to maintain your privacy but it is certainly a headache to maintain. Why can't we handle all accounts in one, single place? I'm sick of having to maintain this multiple lives....

We're the new James Bond

I kid you not

The DIfferences Between Strangers, Acquaintances, Friends and Best Friends

Everyday is someone's birthday

One of my friends said that her first impression of me is that I'm very friendly. Although I am a social recluse, I don't have any problem to chat up a complete stranger and usually by the end of our conversation, both of us would have had a good time talking with each other about whatever. The strange thing is we rarely ask for name. phone numbers or to meet again afterward. Most of my friends are actually made because they're constantly around me. That's all. We don't necessarily share secrets or stuff like that or as open in a conversation. So it makes me wonder, what are the differences between strangers, acquaintances, friends and best friends?

Strangers are Therapists you can get for free
One of my favorite target when spilling my darkest secret are the strangers. They don't know you so they couldn't judge you or if they do, it won't feel as hurtful. You can be very honest and get fresh unbiased response to your view or problem. It can be very therapeutic.Furthermore, what makes strangers irreplaceable is that your secret is totally safe in their hand as long you didn't hand them your personal details during the exchange. They can't use the secret to hurt you.

However, you'd get attached and dependent to these strangers if you maintain constant contact with them. They might turn to be an acquaintances or friends if you hang around them long enough. Once they do, then they'll want to know your personal details, expect you to contact them often and stuff like that. That's normal for most people but not me.

The moment these strangers become acquaintances, or friends, is the moment when I'll start censoring my thoughts and my words when I talk to them.

Acquaintances are Similar to Politicians
By my definition, strangers turned to acquaintance when they're personally introduced to you or just happen to be around your social circle. You know their name, rumors and gossips about them, but you don't care about them. They're almost like strangers but you don't trust them with any of your secrets.

Included in this category are classmates, and work colleagues. Those who didn't fit in might have a hard time to turn these type of acquaintances to friends and the ride to career advancement or something like that could be quite bumpy.

Friends Can Be Protectors or Bullies
Sometimes when you just 'click' with The Stranger too much, it feels like The Stranger is actually one of your friend or at least you'd like to call them your friend even though you don't know his/her name. Is it possible to becomes friends without knowing each other names? If it is possible, what makes it different from being strangers?

For one thing, your friend usually knows you and the people in your social circle. Or if they don't, sooner or later, they would find a way to integrate with your circle. When your friends are friends with your other friends, you now have a small society (circle) of your own. Once it got here, it becomes an even worse politics where you now have to watch your mouth and steps.

The differences between acquaintances and friends is that even though there are some parts of them that you don't like, you care about them anyway. That's when you instinctively start to watch what you says and what you do just so you don't hurt them. It's like being with a family members actually. I know that no family is the same but this is the case with MY family.

And so like a family, there are that feeling of being safe. I mean, if other people attacks your family members (bad mouth, etc) no matter how bad they are,  won't you feel angry or annoyed about it anyway? Sometimes it's enough to make says or do something to defend them. When your family members are in trouble, don't you feels 'I want to help' even when they don't ask for it? When I think about my friends feeling and doing the same thing for me, it makes me feel like I'm not alone and I can make mistakes as there would be people that would accept me for who I am and save me from falling down the cracks.

But that's only if you have good friends. If you have bad friends instead.... Uh, instead of being your protectors, they'd probably be the ones who would bully you instead ~_~ That would suck without a doubt. You might end up hating your friends but suck it up in order to have a (relatively) happy life. That explains why some people say they're lonely even though they have a lot of friends. In order to avoid these kind of bad situations, choose your circle wisely.

You can't choose your family members but you can choose your friends

You don't know what could happen in the future though even if right now you're good friend with someone. For that reason, it's hard for me to share any secrets with them.

Best Friends are Good Friends?
Yeah, call me stupid but I just don't get it. Good friends, bad friends and acquaintances are enough to categorize someone. What are the differences between good friends and best friends anyway? Can you be 'just friends'? I mean if you know someone, talk with that person often, that doesn't automatically makes that person, your friend. He/She could be an acquaintance. Friends are when you personally care about them.

I suppose one way to differentiate between friends and best friends is that you know without a doubt that your best friends would help you in times of need. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

In Conclusion

As you can see, these are the differences between strangers, acquaintances, friends and best friends from my own view. For some people, strangers can be very important to their mental and moral health. They can help them to preserve their sanity and remain true to themselves by allowing them to share their real thoughts behind the scenes without being judged.

That doesn't mean acquaintances, friends and best friends are less important though. Having a good relationship with your acquaintances and friends ensure a (relatively) smooth career and a (relatively) peaceful life. It's harder to handle acquaintances and friends you don't like but it never hurts to be polite and kind to everyone.

Kill your enemies with kindness

I mean would you prefer working with people where some of them like you and some of them hate you or would you prefer working where EVERYONE openly hates you? If you choose the latter, uh.. good luck. I mean that's one of the main reason why people lost motivation to work or get depressed. So yeah.. good luck.

Getting into The Spirit of Celebrating a Happy Birthday

"Jauh berjalan, luas pengalaman."

(The farther you travel, the wider your experience)

Today is my best friend's birthday. Each year, I send her e-card or SMS, no gift ever. It gets kinda old though when everyone is doing the same thing. So I want it to be extra special because she is my best friend. I made her a custom e-card with MS Paint.

The title is 'Today's Hot News' with Mc Donald icon as the column writer ^^ It's funny because she works there. I made the card to look like a short magazine article. It even has the astrology section. It was a lot of fun and pretty quick to make! I like the result and I'm glad she like it too.

*Sigh* She's the only one (among people I know) who appreciates this kind of stuff.

I must admit though, before I met my friends in polytechnic I had never get into the spirit of celebrating anyone's birthday. I thought birthdays are just a cause for family to gather and have delicious treats. My family loves birthday parties.

My aunts and female cousins are good at cooking so they're in charge of preparing the dishes for the party. I'd like to help but every time I try to do that, there is just not much to do for someone who is not used to baking and cooking.

I'm not as outgoing like them and I don't talk much so I often feels like a sore thumb, someone who doesn't belong there, even though I love listening to their funny and spontaneous chattering. I can't help with cleaning either because it wasn't my style to do that in front of others. I can't concentrate. So I rarely join them to help with anything.

I know the anticipation is higher when you're involved in it. So I think that's one of the reason why I'm not excited about the party. I mean, what's so exciting about looking at everyone doing something, then you go down and eat? Except for the cake, it sounds like a normal day to me.

Oh, of course. When there is birthday party, there is also birthday song. Sometimes I sing with them, most of the time I don't because I was too shy. However, the birthday song is one of the thing that makes a birthday celebration special. You'll feel like an outsider if don't join in. I wish I had realized that sooner.

Another thing that makes a birthday special is the birthday wishes. Even if you don't get any gifts, just knowing someone remembers your birthday is enough to make you strangely happy. :)

But, before polytechnic, I rarely wish the birthday boy or girl 'Happy Birthday' because I feels weird saying it and it does sound completely weird from my mouth (it still is). It sounds forced, or choked (yeah.. it's that bad).

The worse memory that really put me off from saying it ever again was that one time when I wish mom a happy Mother's Day. She just didn't look that thrilled or happy. So I refrain from saying it ever again since then (until I got into the polytechnic of course).

Of course now that I'm older and better at reading her body language, I realized now that she actually likes it :) She is just not very good at accepting wishes and gifts (ah, like mom, like daughter).

So I'm very thankful to my friends in polytechnic for teaching me to be more affectionate.

Unfortunately, I'm still bad at wishing someone happy birthday face-to-face so I always use SMS or e-card instead :D

Practicing Kindness to My Mother

Being a loner who doesn't care much for people has its own advantages and disadvantages. For example, I have no problem to ignore gossips and the superficial concerns and I am rarely biased. However, that also means I haven't got a lot of friends or have good communication skill.

While I seldom care about such thing, I do care about not hurting other people feelings especially those who don't deserve to be treated badly like my mother.

Because I am a loner, I dislike others to invade my personal space (it's as big as my bedroom), or be in other's company for long. Because I am a quiet person and like silent, I dislike noise and have hard time to concentrate in busy place. Because I tend to be a single minded person, I tend to concentrate on one thing at a time, hate interruptions and work quite slow.

All of these combinations make me a hard person to be with unless you're very patient or an introvert that rarely go out of he/her room (read: someone similar to me). Since I live with my mother and rarely go out... guess who is my favorite victim? My mother. She definitely doesn't deserve it.

That's one of the reason why I want to change and be a better person.

It's easier said than done though. I have been been asked if I have no feeling a couple of times so I think that should tell you how bad I am at showing my feeling and the lack of remorse for whatever wrong I've done. So I ended up doing a research. It's quite funny though because I have to resort to relationship advice for men XD

How to Show a Woman That You Care is a good read. It contains practical advices on how to treat a woman (though I think men deserve to be treated like that too). Some of the advices even contain link to other article that describes the point in detail. Very helpful. Wish me luck!