Friday, April 25, 2014

Some advice about communicating with a quiet person

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So, i have this Scorpio guy friend. He's cool but I notice how we have issues in communicating with each other. I talk to him often, just about random and sometimes serious things. But, most of the time, he's so damn quiet! I dont know why this has happened with most Scorpios I've known! I try my best to have an interesting conversation, but he doesn't seem to put any effort into it! I've talked to him about things that have happened to me and other stuff but he doesn't say much! But when he talks, I listen to him and I actually respond to him, I have even given him advice and I show him that I care as a friend.

I'm not joking, I've even told him that he is soooooo boring!! I tell him he almost puts me to sleep sometimes (not joking here), but he seems to just shrug it off. I get a little frustrated honestly. Sometimes I even avoid him just so I won't have to put up with him! He's even told me he likes to talk with me, even though he is so quiet!.... I don't know what to think when he says that! 

Advice anyone?

Update: I don't understand him when he says he likes talking to me but when we're actually talking, he is so quiet and it bores me! What can I do to make him talk more? I don't want to be mean to him, he really is a nice guy and he respects me, which is sweet!

Update 2: Scorpios, maybe some input from you guys could help!

Update 3: Ummm, I listen to him all the time! And he's the one who approaches me when he sees me! I'm not saying its all about me, ok?? I don't like to be the center of attention. It just seems like he doesn't care about me when I tell him things, but I do have to listen to him when he talks to me about his issues and about himself!

Update 4: Lol, if he really was bored with me and tired of me like you say Dr. Bob, then why does he approach me when he can easily avoid me? I'm not going to go after him, I'm not going to bother him, he is the one who approaches me. and I thought when two people are friends, they are supposed to care about each other. Well, I care about him. And no, I'm no Leo or Libra! Just shows how good judgement you have.

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https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080112124136AAOSRpo

That sounds like me and if he truly acts like me then, I don't think he's lying when he says he like talking to you. Although he doesn't contribute much into the conversation, he can probably enjoy it just by listening to your thoughts and opinions. For a quiet person, even saying just a few words like 'uhuh', 'yeah', 'you're right' and so on here and there, already feels like we have contribute to the whole conversation. It's not him being selfish or uncaring, it's just his personality.

So, yeah... You might think it's boring but I am quite sure that it's not boring for him at all to spend time with you. I have no idea how you can make him talk more since I'm a quiet person myself.

By the way, if he really don't care about you, he would just go away without saying anything or if he's the polite type then he would try his best to make excuses to make you go away or not starting any kind of conversation right away. Since he didn't do that, I'm pretty sure that that is not the case.

If you truly want to know if he pays attention to you or not, how about testing him by asking him or have conversation with him based on the information you have share with him in previous conversations?

P/S: I'm only talkative when I have strong opinions about something or have a lot of knowledge about it. Most of the time though, being neutral or lacking information about the subject makes me feel like not saying anything at all.

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