Rich People Minus Negative Thoughts

Why am I not flashy? by Ryan

I got the link from one of Potpie Girl's latest email. I admire them both for being able to 'get it' and being able to eloquently express their thoughts and feelings. I love their writing, it sounds so normal yet full of value. It's like talking to a real people. I know they are real but their writing makes me able to realize that they are indeed real people.

The point of having money for us normal people is not to be able to gloat to other people. The first priority is to have a peaceful life. Because it's hard not to worry and being scared all the time even before going to sleep when you wonder all the time if you're going to have enough money to cover your life tomorrow.

I saw someone rich (don't remember who) posted on Facebook that you have to be happy before you can be rich (or is it financially free?) not the other way around. I wonder if that's true. But someone did say negativity brings more misfortune, so positivity should attract more good things in life.

And then secondly, it seems most of these rich people read lots and lots of books before they are successful (or was it all? Nah...). I think the books are either related to their interests like financial advices (I am pretty sure this is Irfan Khairi) or personal development (ah, who that's girl again? Oh yeah, Katie Freiling).

Another thing is most of the successful people either came from selling or networking background (like dad owns grocery store, or parents are hawkers) or from poor family.

What else do the rich people do before they become rich?

Oh yeah, really rich people are frugal, know where their money is going and they don't spend needlessly! I know I read that somewhere in one of Yahoo! articles regarding rich people habits. They don't have debt, most of them even admit that they will collect free money even if it isn't much if they could.

I used to be... kinda, jealous and hate them because I thought they don't understand me. I don't care about flashy things, BMW cars, big houses, long vacations in 5-stars hotel and so on. I just want to live peacefully without having to worry not having enough money to live on tomorrow or this month.

I thought about how I can't do what they do. I hate reading book (article is fine), I dislike talking with people, I hate socializing or partying, so how could I do what they do when I really really don't want to? I just want a friend, who would remain by my side and share thoughts with me.

I don't mind working in solitude at home. I don't mind to mindlessly cooking, cleaning, whatever all day. I don't mind to be a housekeeper as long I don't have to talk to people or handle the kids.

I thought about how I don't spend much money at all. I could just survive to continue living solely on meager monthly paycheck. However, I also realize that if I choose to do it that way, I won't be able to support myself if I got into accident and have to rest for even one month to recover.

So I continue envying those rich people who don't have to worry about not having enough money. I continue wondering what it would be like to be born in a rich family.

And then in the same article mentioned at the top of this post, Patsy (this link to her comment) spoke up. She talked about a book she had been reading:

I was always jealous of rich people until I read a book that said this was giving off negative energy and that I should be admiring them and asking them how they got there. Self made millionaires have had to work hard.

I will always take what people say with a pinch of salt, and even throw it over my shoulder. You have worked hard, I BELIEVE in you and loved how real you have always been.

And it made me realize that they indeed do work hard to get to where they are right now. For example, my ex-boss (I hate him by the way) is very mean, got nasty mouth, look down on people, expect his worker to respect him just because he is their boss, don't trust anyone, a lier (yes, he is!), always late with payment but expect people to pay him fast (I hate him!) and so on. But he is also very good at keeping track of his finance, very neat, love his family very much (Ugh, and he always remind us that he has to take care of his family while looking down at us. What? We don't have to take care of our family?), read a lot, never procrastinate, very shrewd (to the point of lying), very detailed, and spend lots of his time working or with his family.

And another example is, most of the successful people that I personally have met or know, are very busy people (another reason why I think I can't be like them, I am very.. relaxed to the point of being a slowpoke or uncaring or so my mom said). It seems like they are doing million things everyday but still loving it.

Oh, which bring me to another habit of rich people.. They don't care what others might think, they just do it! I keep hearing this phrase ever since I joined an online business. Still, I'm not cashing in much money yet. I know mom has joined this online business for 6 months (now 7) but we stopped doing it because like I said, rich people' habits (or at least the ones in this particular business) clash horribly with our personalities and habits. We don't see eyes to eyes even though I understand their reasonings.

But, I decided to get serious early this month and just do what they say because they are able to make a lot of money and I don't. I've started my Facebook Ads campaign. I still haven't seen any result, sure I got a lot of subscribers but still no one upgrade to become a paid member under my network.

Ugh... they say, be patience, keep learning and improving yourself, be consistent, and I or any paid members will reap the results in one to six months. Looking at how different our attitudes and personalities are, this is going to be a long 6 months but hopefully with very good results in the end. I sure hope it worths it and it won't take away my moral codes and values!